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I have been talking to my friend on the phone that I found out was married a week ago. Again, the relationship over social media and other communication means was not inappropriate in nature.But, because the person is married and … Continue reading
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I didn’t consider myself the type to eat when I felt emotionally distraught. I mean I have binged on chocolate before if I was sad and if chocolate was around. But, I don’t go to the store to buy a … Continue reading
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I get to work with this awesome, awesome guy that I have followed on Instagram over a year. He has a book tour going on and has other books in the works and I will be his social media editor. … Continue reading
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I am a total sucker for the beauty of the Olde English language, but that statement is both powerful and reassuring and scary. When I was standing in front of the ocean yesterday, I started pondering life in a big way, as I often do when I go to the beach. The enormity and vastness of the sea always puts me in a spiritual and pensive mode. I wish I could be an air head just trying to catch some rays, but I always go deep-in thoughts, not the water.:)
Then for some reason I thought: The ocean restoreth and the ocean taketh away. It instantly reminded me of how powerful yet beautiful the ocean is and as much as I love it, I fear it. It is similar to the way I feel about God. I worship and uplift Him, but I fear Him all the same. It’s amazing that something so mesmerizing and calming could also sweep someone away to never be seen again. It made me realize how small I am in the vastness of the world. My little life and even smaller problems are like one grain of sand on one beach and there are thousands of beaches and infinite grains of sand.
I really as of late have thought about what I do have that I value and my life is small in comparison to what I view on other people’s “social media” lives or to their circle of acquaintances. But as much as I love my life and long for a “larger” life, I really like the uniqueness and “weeness” of my life experience. I enjoy the adventures with my daughter and seeing my mom 4 or 5 times a year for a week at a time. I enjoy talking to my mom daily on the phone and not to many other people. Though when it comes down to my birthday or holidays, I see and talk to quite a lot of people, my daily life as with many people has come to communicating pretty much through technology. No wonder so many people are so lonely. They have thousands of friends on social media and maybe 3 people they could actually call on.
Not tooting my own horn, but on my FB and IG, I have around 100 on each and I like it because I feel that the people there are people that care. Or I have a real connection with them and I could probably call on 25 or 30 of them in a time of need because they are more than just a number. Many are family and church members and childhood friends. Some are local people that I have known for a decade or a half a decade and I get together with them a few times a year.
My whole point in all of this is to say that having relationships that are meaningful really makes a difference. I do not win an award for the most followers on any of my networks, nor do I have a gaggle of cards in the mail for my birthday. But I do have a good number of people that think of me and celebrate me and love me and that is all I can ask for. Some of these people may not be what I would consider friends that I would want to be with all of the time because I do tend to attract a quirky bunch. But I am honestly glad that I have them and that they put up with me. Over the years people have been removed from life, I feel by God because I have prayed for people to leave my life that are a strain on me. But along the same vein, some of the people that I lost touch with have become some of my greatest friends/allies/family and I am so grateful to have those relationships are restored.
Things are taken and things are given and I think that if we respect the process and understand that some events happen for reasons that we will never understand that we can live our lives in peace. This is why I pray for peace and pray for goodness and pray for safety because just as there are angels watching over us ready to protect and save, there are other forces just as eager to have a hand in our undoing.
Man oh man I have become quite the serious one in my “not so old age”, but don’t worry, I am celebrating life enough over the next week that fun will balance all of this density out.:) Have a great rest of the weekend and a beautiful upcoming week. No matter if it is a day that you are celebrating or a milestone, or even a heartbreak, there is a lesson to be learned and the fact that you are here and alive and able to experience it is a miracle in itself. And if you have someone you love whom you have not reached out to lately, do it today. A few words or a kind gesture will mean more than you can imagine.
Simply~
Dee
I will admit that I am a Christian woman with a sometimes awful potty mouth. I do not claim to be perfect. But I also don’t have a meme or post praising Jesus one moment, and the next minute having one talking about going to a strip club. Some of the women that I know on social media (Very few) are such nasty talkers or just low class in their choice of words at times, but at other times they are quoting C.S. Lewis.
I know that we all have somewhat “schizo” personalities. Even people that are not diagnosed with a serious personality or mental disorder can change like the wind. As I mentioned in my post yesterday, I can go from one extreme to another with my feelings. But to be super holy one day and super sinful the next day is not having varying emotions. It is just plain crazy (IMHO). I keep talking about how I am trying to not judge, but is calling out people’s erratic behavior on social media judging, or just telling it like it is?
I have a friend/trend who gets on there with all of this kumbayah stuff and all of these posts about light and love and then she’s like-“Who is in for a Vegas girls trip?” Now we all not good and dang well that a Vegas trip spells nothing but trouble with a group of women who are either sex-starved or looking hungrily for a man. Believe me, these women are. I guess that I am saying that even though I have many sides to me (mom, daughter, friend, professional, seductress:), woman, child of God, hopeless romantic) I think that they are all pretty much in the middle. Maybe that’s not a good thing. Maybe I need to be a warrior for Christ and need to know every scripture. Maybe I need to be a serial-dater and have all of the men when my kid is away with friends. Perhaps I should work 60 hour weeks so that I could have more income. Okay, maybe the first one is okay to do:)
But seriously, are people super big time fakers on social media? Are they seeking attention? Are they wanting responses? I know that I write on here for responses sometimes. The same thing with Facebook or Instagram. Sometimes, we all just want to be heard and acknowledged. But I think that people need to be real with themselves and decide who they really are. Because we can not serve heaven and hell all at the same time. It is okay to have fun in life and to be human. No one is perfect except of course Jesus Christ. But no one will take us seriously if we are so extreme with our behavior that it makes no sense to not even ourselves.
Be true to you. Put things out there that you are proud of. If you are proud that you are going to a strip club, put it out there. If you are proud of your kid, let it be known. If you are a woman of God, show it. If you are the biggest heathen on earth, I don’t encourage that, but it is who you are. I think people can change and are fickle like me, but changing from a whore to a housewife five minutes between posts is not at all possible. Be real. Be you, If people do not like you for who you are, then that is their issue. I mean we all have things that we have to reel in, in order to not offend. I can’t tell people all of the time exactly what I would like to because it will hurt them. But I am certainly not being fake by using discernment.
I think that is the perfect word. Discernment. It is a word that many people this day and age do not even consider. Before we do anything, we need to always use good judgment and if it is something that is big or important, I ask for God’s discernment because I am not all-knowing and certainly need all the help that I can get when it comes to making wise choices. I think that we all do.
Moral of story. Be you. Be authentic. Think before you speak or post. Use wisdom. Ask for God’s help. Actually listen to what God, i.e., your intuition is telling you to do and do that.
Happy almost end of the work week! One more day for most, but I am off until Tuesday!!
Simply~
Dee
Simply Dee in D.C. 