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So, it is the end of 2015 and I haven’t…

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I haven’t stuck with my end of the bargain-reading tons of blogs and writing tons. But, I have written more this year than in a long time. But, I have got my fitness together more than ever in my life. My kiddo finished her 3rd play of the year this month, I have been sick for nearly a month, we have been running around all year like chickens with our heads cut off, but 2015 was decent. I learned a lot. I realized that I tackle too much. Like I wanted to be fit, and get financially and physically fit and write all of the time.

As much as I think that I am a multi-tasker, on major tasks, it is best for me to tackle one big thing at a time. So now that I have found #21dayfix and it is working, I am reading a lot. Then I am going to add back in writing a lot. Then I will focus attention on a new job. I am going to be less hard on myself in 2016 and treat myself kinder. I still resolve to get more fit, have more money and to do more creative things that I enjoy. But, I am not going to beat myself up if I don’t write every day in 2016 or work out every day, or pay off every debt I have.

I hope that you all have a blessed and happy 2016 and I hope that 2015 was all that you wished for and more.

God Bless and I will  “see” you more in 2016!

~simply

DEE

So, I find myself behind on my writing again

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I am back. Tech week has started at my daughter’s big production in D.C. this week. That means that she has to be at the theatre 7 times this week and 3 next week. Roughly 75/80 hours in 2 weeks. It’s fun, but tiring.

I haven’t written awhile. Been doing some soul searching and reevaluating a lot of things. Job, people, situation, etc. The older I get the more disappointed I am in people. I think social media definitely lends to that. A lot.

If you will remember, I quit Facebook for a bit. I had to get back on because I am the administrator for a Facebook page for a church and if I deactivated, then so did the church!

In the time that I have been back on there, I have realized that when people aren’t happy they aren’t happy for you. When people want what you have they aren’t happy for you.

People that have loads of people supporting them on Facebook are the kind that have 1500 friends. Or, people that constantly go out and have wine and party. Or people whom show their bodies off.

I am far beyond my party stage. I am too private to have more than 100 or so friends. And, I am definitely not fit enough to show body pics. Even if I was, I am somebody’s mom and it’s just not a good luck for me.

I am saying all of this to say that modern tech can be hurtful to a degree. If people don’t like your pics, you wonder why. If a friend doesn’t text you back, it is bothersome. If you email a friend and they never reply it can make one worry. If you message someone and see the time that they viewed it and they don’t make the effort to answer your query then it gets personal.

I have been going through this deal lately with friends. I called 5 people over the last week, and not one called me back. One friend is a friend of over 20 years, but has always been bad about calling. She is a full time mom and has a full time job and her kids are in activities and we are in different states. So she has a pass because she is there when I need her.

But the other people, one is supposed to be my best friend and I am her daughter’s Godmother. I have tried 4 ways to get in touch with her because her husband can be controlling. My daughter has even tried to Facetime and message her God sister because she misses her and our kids are best friends. They live out of state and we don’t see them but every 2 years so we love to talk to them. There has been no reply.

The other people are really non-factors. But, I have felt kind of like a social leper as of late. I don’t see most of these people that I have called because we don’t live near each other, so it is natural that I want to talk with them from time to time. So it is not like I have had a falling out with them or offended them. I am reaching out to them!

I don’t call them a lot, we may go a month or so without talking. And then we talk like crazy for a couple of weeks and then things get crazy again. But we haven’t talked to my “best friend” and Godchild in 6 weeks. Four ways of communication have not phased her. I guess when she is ready she will contact us. But I guess I am tired of being the friend that is “ready” when people feel like being bothered.

I am an above and beyond kind of friend. I am not a taker, I am a giver and a counselor and confidante. I try to not expect a lot in return, but I should not always be the one reaching out to people. I almost feel like God is trying to tell me something about the people who are in my life.

I don’t know how changing friends or deleting people out of my life is going to make it better. But perhaps there is a divine plan in the works. I certainly haven’t done anything to deserve the cold shoulder. So I don’t know what to think.

But if I ignore someone, I’m a B—. Or, I am being insensitive. One of the biggest faults that I have is that I am too caring, too forgiving, and apparently a glutton for punishment. Advice? Similar story to share? Or am I in this leper world alone?

Simply~

Dee

So, I have decided to focus on the positive in this world full of negative…

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Today, I am so happy and blessed and ecstatic to be alive. There are people all over the world who did not have that luxury today. There are people within the last week who have lost their lives, or the lives of their loved ones to these terrorists cowards. Heck, it happens everyday all over the world.

So, today I want to live in thankfulness and gratitude. I am thankful to have the heat on and be underneath the covers. I am blessed to have just eaten my chicken sausage, kale and almonds combo and more food at my disposal.

I am happy that I am actually seeing results on my long, long weight loss journey. I am so grateful to have met my ex-husbands’ ex-girlfriend:) who had similar weight loss struggles and see her lose so much weight. She inspired me to become a Beachbody Coach and introduced me to 21 Day Fix!

Of course, I am thankful for my daughter. She colors and lights my world. WIthout her, my life would be blehhhh to the 100th power. And speaking of not making it without her-my mom. She can be a huge pain and is set in her ways, but she is my best friend besides my daughter. I should tell her that sometimes.

Last but not least. Definitely not least. My spiritual life. I am not religious. I am more like a reverent person. I follow Christ. I do not do a great job of imitating Him, but I know through him is eternal life and peace. I am working on the peace part. I am also working on being around people that can only bless me in my journey, not hinder me or it in any way.

I encourage you all to focus on what is good. Even if it is just for today. Or even if it seems totally impossible to do so, there is good in this world. It may seem hard to find, but there is more good than evil. But it’s akin to dropping one drop of oil in water-it changes everything.

Whether you are religious, spiritual, a non-believer or however you may identify yourself, if you are here today there is a reason to be grateful. Blessing and love to you all.

Simply~

Dee

So, I cut Facebook loose for at least 9 days

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Okay, I am in phase 1 of my finding myself/finding who my friends are is my mission. I deactivated Facebook and I set it for 9 days. I kept finding myself all throughout the day wanting to log on. Or check in somewhere, etc. I still have my Instagram and my Twitter. But my IG is not as personal and has some friends, but also strangers. Twitter is even less personal and was started because of a fandom (followers of a show) and now I follow a lot of political people on their.

For me, Facebook was personal and had people on there that I felt close to. There are some great people on there that I love. Don’t get me wrong. But, I want more from a relationship than a like. I want to see who is really tried and true. So many times, people are on there just to judge or be nosy. I will find out who my real friends are from this adventure. That is for sure. I don’t post a lot on IG and even less on Twitter. So, I am going to see how my life is and how it feels with less social on media and more social in person.

I am tired of feeling disconnected. I am tired of not seeing people in 3-D. I am wondering if others feel the same as I? So totally in touch with people electronically, but so out of tune with their real lives or issues because of this technology dependence. I know we will never go back to the 80’s, but so many times I wish we could! We had a good president, terrorism was a word I knew nothing about, and race relations were decent.

I digress. We are in this age of technology addiction. I get it. I am typing right now on my laptop. But I really and truly want  am going to  make life simpler. I am working hard to declutter stuff, use technology less and get rid of people who only weigh me down. In the midst of this, I hope to find what I am looking for. Both in other people and myself.

Simply~

Dee

So, I am not waiting until the New Year to change…

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We all say we are done with people or situations at some point in our time. But I really am. I am the kind of person that goes above and beyond. All of the time. For people who I am cool with, my ex sister-in-law’s kid, for pretty much everyone in my life.

But don’t you think that the more you do for some people, the more they take you for granted? So, I have decided I am done. I am not going out of my way for people anymore. I am going to pull back a lot. I will not send continuous texts to see if people are coming to my kid’s play, or if they want to meet up for a winery, etc.

I have worked hard on my health and fitness this year. I have tried to work on my relationship with God as well. So, now I am going to take a HUGE step back and look at my relationships with people. In doing that, I can make more time to earn money and more time to see who is there for me.

Sound crazy? Read Maximize the Moment by T.D. Jakes. He lays it on the line about people. Just because someone is Christian doesn’t mean they have to be a doormat for people. I would read the book, but I lent it to someone and never got it back.:) See, what I mean about my crappy friends?

Anyway, I am still thankful and blessed and focusing on positive things. Sometimes narrowing one’s scope in life can really bring a lot of revelation. So, hopefully my path will be revealed during my hiatus from Facebook and from people in general, except of course my close family and cat:)

Have a blessed Saturday and a restful Sunday!

Simply~

Dee

So, Thanksgiving is coming up and I am thankful…

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I don’t have oodles of cash. I don’t have a big, fine house. I don’t have a “big job”, but I am thankful and happy every single day. I have a friend/trend who buys her way into people’s hearts. She has not one friend that she hasn’t spent lots of money on at one time or another. She is a nice woman, but she would not be the person that she is without her nice income.

So many people define themselves and their lives by their status, the number of stamps on their passports, or how often they get pampered at the spa. I wonder how they make it if they made 30 grand a year. Or if they rent instead of own. Or, if they did not have a boatload of people to hang out with at a moment’s notice.

I have spent much of my life being mediocre. (It kinda sucks because I am actually quite bright and creative and fabulous) Making mediocre money, going mediocre places, and living a life that could have been so much bigger. But then came my kid. I have done the whole mom/child-rearing thing in a big way. I am a super, fabulous mom and  a lot of people envy-no joke. I wouldn’t trade all of the memories on vacations with flashy friends for the awesome journey I have had and continue to have with my kid.

I look at my child everyday, and realize what a gift I have been given by God. I yell, I get annoyed, I may not cook all of the food groups on a regular basis, but I am present. I have traditions with my kid. I make occasions more than special. I treat every birthday as a royal occasion, planning for 4 or 5 months sometimes like her recent party.

But, one doesn’t have to have a child to see and feel God’s love and blessings. Having a great and rewarding career is something to be thankful for. I have never had that. Having a great relationship with your family, or friends that would go to the ends of the earth for you is something that most  of us don’t have. Being really athletic and fit and inspirational to others is a blessing to count for sure!

My whole point in all of this, is that people die everyday. There are monsters creating terror all over the world everyday. So everyday we are alive and haven’t lost anyone is a day to praise God and celebrate. I have decided to not ever put myself into a relationship, or a job or in a situation any more where I am not valued or I do not feel happy. I want to look back when I am old and realize that I did not waste my time on unimportant issues or people.

During this beautiful and hectic and magical holiday season. Don’t fret. Don’t feel sad. Know that there are many people out there that would love to have the life that you do. IF you ever feel that you are short on blessings, know that your ability to read this blog and other blogs and have access to technology and have the ability to  write is a right or a privilege that many people across the world do not have access to.

What are you thankful for this year?

Simply~

Dee

So, a lot has happened since I’ve been gone. Most of it sucky…

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Wow. So terrorism is always running rampant somewhere. It is like a B-action movie that never ends. But this Paris stuff was just a ticking time bomb and I do not mean that as a joke. For years, extremists have taken over parts of Paris and forced their rule of law which includes Sharia law and have pretty much said, you don’t follow our way of life then stay out of our hood.

I call it BS Why are governments so liberal and politically correct? Do they not see that it doesn’t work? I am not a gun nut. At all. As a matter of fact, I shot a rifle for the first time ever a week ago. And, I got all of the bullets in the same spot.:) I digress, but all of these gun free zones is where terrorist acts are occurring.

Like the one predicted or scheduled to happen here in D.C. All of the areas that they could/would/will strike have no carry laws. But if they come to VA with their nonsense, they would be in a world of hurt because Virginians are packing, and packing heavy. It is like I am referring to the wild, wild west. Or, I feel like we are living in those times, but much worse. These folks are enemies that are hard to peg down and there are no rules of engagement.

I am not an Islamophobe I don’t think. But it does get harder and harder to be around people of that persuasion, when all of this violence and hate goes on and it is rare that other Muslims stand up and say it is wrong. I get so annoyed with anti-religious folks bashing Christians. Especially when they bring up the Crusades deal like Obama did. Not forgetting that the Crusades happened when times were not civilized.

For some reason when it comes to this religion, people are afraid to call a spade a spade. Well, I don’t hate any race or religion. I try to be kind to all, to live my life in a decent and respectful manner and I never have a goal to hurt anyone. How can people be attracted to this extreme way of living where death and destruction is the goal? Are these the end times?

Well, I know one thing for sure. I know these “refugees” are not coming north and west because of global warming like the genius CIA director said. This brainwashing done by Obama has even the CIA sounding ridiculous. If you guys are mad that I am not supporting the president, tough crap. I try not to be political on here. I really do. But if you are still blaming other presidents or still in denial, I don’t know how to help you at this point.

I wasn’t around during Nazi Germany, obviously, but this climate we are in with the president and his flowery language and the media licking his boots, it is eerie and sounds too familiar.