So, I respect people who have different opinions and viewpoints, I don’t have to agree with them, but I don’t just outright shut them out.  So a year ago was the infamous pink vagina hat march or rally in D.C.  I was personally appalled by the idea of people wearing them on their heads and especially those who took their children. But some of those people are people I know very well because as you all know I live in D.C. area. Again, not for me, but everyone hasn’t their right to believe or think or participate in whatever they like.

What really, really annoyed me was that it was less of an uplifting of women, but more of a bashing of men. I am all for girl power and to let girl’s know that they can do anything. But to make the event about men and how horrible they are, really annoyed me. And honestly, I could easily tear down men. I haven’t  spoken to my father in over 20 years because he was a horrible dad and cheated on my mom and is super racist and ignorant. My ex husband cheated on me and did absolutely nothing to help me with our child the 4 years that he lived with us. Lastly, my brother who is 8 years older than I and has never been good to me and resented the day I was born, literally.   So if anyone could rip men apart, it could be me.

If it weren’t for men, none of us would be here. Martin Luther King never promoted hatred towards whites, so women do not need to do the converse when it comes to s men. I tell my daughter that she is strong, smart and capable.  I have given her as many engineering and science sets as I’ve given her dolls. I always dressed her up in dresses because I love girly clothes. But she would have on cowboy boots with them or sneakers because she is a tough kind of girl. The first 5 years of her life, she would only play with trains and cars and tool boxes and It didn’t bother me a bit. She and I didn’t  have the same style or interests per se, but I was just as invested in her tennis class as I was in ballet class. This point isn’t important, though we ar different, I can see the other side without criticism.

My point is, that we are not all alike. Males and females are supposed to be different.  There are many differences among women, and men are not the same either. We have got to stop being so divisive. And we have to stop with all of the labels and acting as if everything is simply black and white. If someone is not a big time feminist they are anti-feminist. If someone is pro-life, they are considered anti-women, if someone is pro-choice, they are considered to be anti-Christian. I try so hard to be open and understanding to all of these perspectives without such harsh judgment. But if someone is nothing on board with popular opinion or what the media says is cool, then that person or group is instantly at attacked.

I can’t completely be put into any one category and I think that we as a nation have got to stop with this fighting between all of these differing groups. There is value in everyone and we can learn from one another. And the idea that men are not valuable or are all abusIve or hold women back is ludicrous. It is important that women are treated well in the workplace and paid equally, I am not disputing that. But there are ways to go about accomplishing goals and hate and anger are not generally effective five mechanisms to reach goals. Looking at the name of the March this year, has me more positive about what our future has to hold. It is more about empowering women and electing women. Now that I can get on board with.

simply~

Dee