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So, I am working out again and that is about it…

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I haven’t been writing in my journal religiously, or reading my Bible as much as I wanted or getting a lot of work done. But, my cough is getting better and I worked out 2 days this week! So yay!!! This whole “trying to better myself in 10 different ways at the same time” thing is really a lot of work!

Are you guys meeting your goals or visions for yourself right now? I am the kind of person that has great ideas and great intentions, but I tend to do really well on a few things, but not on more than a few things at a time. If I am writing regularly and working out, then my other goals fall by the way side.

I admire people like one of my friends on Instagram called theglamuniversity. She just did this awesome woman’s empowerment and business event that is a sleepover and all of the tricks of the trade are taught by powerful successful women like her. She is writing a book, she is expanding her empire. She is getting in shape. She is becoming a mogul! I am so happy for her! But how do people do it?

I am not trying in any way to compare myself to others but all I can say is that I am a decent multi-tasker, but not when it comes to major life changes. I guess I will just take it one day at a time and do the best I can to master or keep up with a few things in my life that mean the most. Then perhaps I can spend a little time on everything else. How do you guys get motivated or stay motivated? Tips, please!!

simply~

Dee

So, is it wrong for me not to want to talk a lot this year?

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If you knew me in real life, you would know that I talk a lot. I am smart and funny and have a lot of smart and funny things to say. I am also critical at times and self-deprecating, but I am anything but quiet. But this year, I want to mute out the noise. Noise coming from me and from others. In my quest to purge material things, I also want to purge unhealthy people/situationships as well.

I have been contacted more than twice by 3 people this week that I would consider toxic or unhappy or in less dignified terms-real buzzkills. All 3 of them have issues. One more than the other 2. But I do too. I am a struggling single parent and I still am unsure what I want to be when I grow up. But, I don’t tell them every time I talk to them about every problem I have. I have learned to turn to prayer or to myself or through writing to heal some wounds.

I spent December doing fun things. My kid’s mega performance at a major university in D.C. was a big part of our month. The rest was family and friends and good food and great experiences. I was sick for half that month and still am, but I did what I wanted and was around people that made me happy. After December, I decided that I want to do that all of the time. Why should I be around people that do not make me happy?  Why should any of us?

So, I would rather be hermitish (not a word I know) than talk and deal with people that I do not value, or those that only call to bitch and complain to me. It’s like in their social media life all is well and they laugh and carry on with everyone online. But then I get to hear the real side. Maybe I don’t care to be people’s confidante anymore. I used to try to fix people and really felt value in being needed. Now I just want to live my life and read great books, eat great food, be around people that I love and vcvs.

Does it sound selfish? If it does, then good! I have never been selfish. I have always put others needs and wants and wishes in front of mine. I get that from my mom. Of course I will still put my daughter and my mom in the front of everything. But everyone else must stand in line from this point on! I have been ignored for months by people, but if/when I don’t jump to return a call they are all over me. It’s like good old dependable Dee. She will always be there. ALWAYSSSSSS. I don’t want to be anymore.

This year, is about fitness, finance and finding my happiness. Beyond that, I am unbothered. I don’t care if people don’t agree with my political opinions. I don’t care if people find me different and insensitive. I am going to give people what they give me. If they give me silence, they will get that in return. If they give me love, I will love them like crazy. But what I will not give anymore, is my time or myself to undeserving and uncaring and selfish folks.

So, I guess that this is my declaration for 2016. Or, my soapbox sermon. Or perhaps my “getting it all off of my chest” session. I hope that you all do what makes you happy in 2016 and always. It is very liberating to love everyone, but at a distance without the entrapment or all of the drama. God bless!

simply~

dee

So,purging material things is quite tiring.

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Project get rid of things we don’t need/use/use/want 2016 is underway. My daughter got rid of around 50 books. So did I. I have also gotten rid of the stray shirt, pj item, old Wii game, decoration, knick-knack and thing-a-ma-bob. It feels quite cathartic, but it is overwhelming to see how much we have, though I am constantly getting rid of things.

I feel like we as Americans just have so much stuff. If some major thing were to go down and I would have to leave here in 30 minutes time, I would only grab my daughter, cat, photos, journals and baby items I have kept. So, why the need for all of the other?

I started right after Christmas and have continued nearly every single day. That is called being blessed when one can get rid of hundreds of items and their home still not be bare. I want this to be the year of lean. Lean closets, lean waist, and lean spending. I am bored with dust bunny covered items just because.

My biggest problem is papers at this point. Ticket stubs I want to keep as memories, programs, fliers, doo-dads from events, postcards, the whole nine. I think February will be about memories that aren’t the normal material things. It will be good for smiles, laughs and cries, and though I may not get rid of a lot of it, it will make more for the next series of events and memories.

Here’s hoping that you are doing or going to do in 2016, the things that are healing for you and close to your heart. I started a one sentence a day 5 year journal on the 1st. I am looking forward to making that a part of my daily routine along with writing, exercising and praying. Blessings to you all!

simply~

Dee

So, it is the end of 2015 and I haven’t…

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I haven’t stuck with my end of the bargain-reading tons of blogs and writing tons. But, I have written more this year than in a long time. But, I have got my fitness together more than ever in my life. My kiddo finished her 3rd play of the year this month, I have been sick for nearly a month, we have been running around all year like chickens with our heads cut off, but 2015 was decent. I learned a lot. I realized that I tackle too much. Like I wanted to be fit, and get financially and physically fit and write all of the time.

As much as I think that I am a multi-tasker, on major tasks, it is best for me to tackle one big thing at a time. So now that I have found #21dayfix and it is working, I am reading a lot. Then I am going to add back in writing a lot. Then I will focus attention on a new job. I am going to be less hard on myself in 2016 and treat myself kinder. I still resolve to get more fit, have more money and to do more creative things that I enjoy. But, I am not going to beat myself up if I don’t write every day in 2016 or work out every day, or pay off every debt I have.

I hope that you all have a blessed and happy 2016 and I hope that 2015 was all that you wished for and more.

God Bless and I will  “see” you more in 2016!

~simply

DEE

So, I find myself behind on my writing again

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I am back. Tech week has started at my daughter’s big production in D.C. this week. That means that she has to be at the theatre 7 times this week and 3 next week. Roughly 75/80 hours in 2 weeks. It’s fun, but tiring.

I haven’t written awhile. Been doing some soul searching and reevaluating a lot of things. Job, people, situation, etc. The older I get the more disappointed I am in people. I think social media definitely lends to that. A lot.

If you will remember, I quit Facebook for a bit. I had to get back on because I am the administrator for a Facebook page for a church and if I deactivated, then so did the church!

In the time that I have been back on there, I have realized that when people aren’t happy they aren’t happy for you. When people want what you have they aren’t happy for you.

People that have loads of people supporting them on Facebook are the kind that have 1500 friends. Or, people that constantly go out and have wine and party. Or people whom show their bodies off.

I am far beyond my party stage. I am too private to have more than 100 or so friends. And, I am definitely not fit enough to show body pics. Even if I was, I am somebody’s mom and it’s just not a good luck for me.

I am saying all of this to say that modern tech can be hurtful to a degree. If people don’t like your pics, you wonder why. If a friend doesn’t text you back, it is bothersome. If you email a friend and they never reply it can make one worry. If you message someone and see the time that they viewed it and they don’t make the effort to answer your query then it gets personal.

I have been going through this deal lately with friends. I called 5 people over the last week, and not one called me back. One friend is a friend of over 20 years, but has always been bad about calling. She is a full time mom and has a full time job and her kids are in activities and we are in different states. So she has a pass because she is there when I need her.

But the other people, one is supposed to be my best friend and I am her daughter’s Godmother. I have tried 4 ways to get in touch with her because her husband can be controlling. My daughter has even tried to Facetime and message her God sister because she misses her and our kids are best friends. They live out of state and we don’t see them but every 2 years so we love to talk to them. There has been no reply.

The other people are really non-factors. But, I have felt kind of like a social leper as of late. I don’t see most of these people that I have called because we don’t live near each other, so it is natural that I want to talk with them from time to time. So it is not like I have had a falling out with them or offended them. I am reaching out to them!

I don’t call them a lot, we may go a month or so without talking. And then we talk like crazy for a couple of weeks and then things get crazy again. But we haven’t talked to my “best friend” and Godchild in 6 weeks. Four ways of communication have not phased her. I guess when she is ready she will contact us. But I guess I am tired of being the friend that is “ready” when people feel like being bothered.

I am an above and beyond kind of friend. I am not a taker, I am a giver and a counselor and confidante. I try to not expect a lot in return, but I should not always be the one reaching out to people. I almost feel like God is trying to tell me something about the people who are in my life.

I don’t know how changing friends or deleting people out of my life is going to make it better. But perhaps there is a divine plan in the works. I certainly haven’t done anything to deserve the cold shoulder. So I don’t know what to think.

But if I ignore someone, I’m a B—. Or, I am being insensitive. One of the biggest faults that I have is that I am too caring, too forgiving, and apparently a glutton for punishment. Advice? Similar story to share? Or am I in this leper world alone?

Simply~

Dee

So, I cut Facebook loose for at least 9 days

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Okay, I am in phase 1 of my finding myself/finding who my friends are is my mission. I deactivated Facebook and I set it for 9 days. I kept finding myself all throughout the day wanting to log on. Or check in somewhere, etc. I still have my Instagram and my Twitter. But my IG is not as personal and has some friends, but also strangers. Twitter is even less personal and was started because of a fandom (followers of a show) and now I follow a lot of political people on their.

For me, Facebook was personal and had people on there that I felt close to. There are some great people on there that I love. Don’t get me wrong. But, I want more from a relationship than a like. I want to see who is really tried and true. So many times, people are on there just to judge or be nosy. I will find out who my real friends are from this adventure. That is for sure. I don’t post a lot on IG and even less on Twitter. So, I am going to see how my life is and how it feels with less social on media and more social in person.

I am tired of feeling disconnected. I am tired of not seeing people in 3-D. I am wondering if others feel the same as I? So totally in touch with people electronically, but so out of tune with their real lives or issues because of this technology dependence. I know we will never go back to the 80’s, but so many times I wish we could! We had a good president, terrorism was a word I knew nothing about, and race relations were decent.

I digress. We are in this age of technology addiction. I get it. I am typing right now on my laptop. But I really and truly want  am going to  make life simpler. I am working hard to declutter stuff, use technology less and get rid of people who only weigh me down. In the midst of this, I hope to find what I am looking for. Both in other people and myself.

Simply~

Dee

So, I didn’t stick to my word…

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Okay, I know that I say that writing for the sake of writing is fab. But I for a while have not been able to write as much to read. Or to write as much as think. Or to write as much as pray. Or to write as much as to worry.

I have been going through some “personal revelations” as of late. I have decided to step out on faith and to become a beach body coach. What that means is that I will be a consultant for people who want to get healthier, or lose weight or tone up or train for something.

I may not be the poster child of #21dayfix but after losing 8 pounds in almost 3 weeks and realizing that I can work out with fit people and make it happen! I have lost inches, and though I have around 45 pounds to go, I think that I could help people like me.

I also have decided to really make more time for things and people who are important. Church, friends that are tried and true, workouts (as I mentioned before) just to name a few things. I had a birthday recently and then tends to be a time for me of deep thought and self-examination.

Also, something about fall makes me think of new beginnings. I know that is weird because most people think of spring and renewal. And I do too because of sprouting flowers and Easter (resurrection). But as a kid, the excitement and fear and happiness and worry upon the beginning of the school year is a time I will never forget. That is why I equate September with newness.

I am back to writing again. I have done a lot of reading. I have decided what I am going to do as another job (Beachbody). I have started singing in the choir again. My kid’s activities are in full swing. Something about the summer that makes me want to meditate and chill and not commit and how the fall helps me to get motivated.

So, we all find ourselves the week of Halloween and Christmas is less than 2 months away and then the contemplation of the New Year will lie ahead. But this time if you all bear with me I will write about it instead of withdraw for a couple of months. Several times I would start a draft on WP and just stop short.

But I am back out in the world again and ready to share and ready to read all of the fabulous things that you have to say as well. Happy hump day and happy fall y’all:)

~Simply

Dee

P.S. Are any of you guys dressing up this year for Halloween? Or, are do you guys celebrate?