Monthly Archives: November 2015

So, I have decided to focus on the positive in this world full of negative…

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Today, I am so happy and blessed and ecstatic to be alive. There are people all over the world who did not have that luxury today. There are people within the last week who have lost their lives, or the lives of their loved ones to these terrorists cowards. Heck, it happens everyday all over the world.

So, today I want to live in thankfulness and gratitude. I am thankful to have the heat on and be underneath the covers. I am blessed to have just eaten my chicken sausage, kale and almonds combo and more food at my disposal.

I am happy that I am actually seeing results on my long, long weight loss journey. I am so grateful to have met my ex-husbands’ ex-girlfriend:) who had similar weight loss struggles and see her lose so much weight. She inspired me to become a Beachbody Coach and introduced me to 21 Day Fix!

Of course, I am thankful for my daughter. She colors and lights my world. WIthout her, my life would be blehhhh to the 100th power. And speaking of not making it without her-my mom. She can be a huge pain and is set in her ways, but she is my best friend besides my daughter. I should tell her that sometimes.

Last but not least. Definitely not least. My spiritual life. I am not religious. I am more like a reverent person. I follow Christ. I do not do a great job of imitating Him, but I know through him is eternal life and peace. I am working on the peace part. I am also working on being around people that can only bless me in my journey, not hinder me or it in any way.

I encourage you all to focus on what is good. Even if it is just for today. Or even if it seems totally impossible to do so, there is good in this world. It may seem hard to find, but there is more good than evil. But it’s akin to dropping one drop of oil in water-it changes everything.

Whether you are religious, spiritual, a non-believer or however you may identify yourself, if you are here today there is a reason to be grateful. Blessing and love to you all.

Simply~

Dee

So, I cut Facebook loose for at least 9 days

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Okay, I am in phase 1 of my finding myself/finding who my friends are is my mission. I deactivated Facebook and I set it for 9 days. I kept finding myself all throughout the day wanting to log on. Or check in somewhere, etc. I still have my Instagram and my Twitter. But my IG is not as personal and has some friends, but also strangers. Twitter is even less personal and was started because of a fandom (followers of a show) and now I follow a lot of political people on their.

For me, Facebook was personal and had people on there that I felt close to. There are some great people on there that I love. Don’t get me wrong. But, I want more from a relationship than a like. I want to see who is really tried and true. So many times, people are on there just to judge or be nosy. I will find out who my real friends are from this adventure. That is for sure. I don’t post a lot on IG and even less on Twitter. So, I am going to see how my life is and how it feels with less social on media and more social in person.

I am tired of feeling disconnected. I am tired of not seeing people in 3-D. I am wondering if others feel the same as I? So totally in touch with people electronically, but so out of tune with their real lives or issues because of this technology dependence. I know we will never go back to the 80’s, but so many times I wish we could! We had a good president, terrorism was a word I knew nothing about, and race relations were decent.

I digress. We are in this age of technology addiction. I get it. I am typing right now on my laptop. But I really and truly want  am going to  make life simpler. I am working hard to declutter stuff, use technology less and get rid of people who only weigh me down. In the midst of this, I hope to find what I am looking for. Both in other people and myself.

Simply~

Dee

So, I am not waiting until the New Year to change…

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We all say we are done with people or situations at some point in our time. But I really am. I am the kind of person that goes above and beyond. All of the time. For people who I am cool with, my ex sister-in-law’s kid, for pretty much everyone in my life.

But don’t you think that the more you do for some people, the more they take you for granted? So, I have decided I am done. I am not going out of my way for people anymore. I am going to pull back a lot. I will not send continuous texts to see if people are coming to my kid’s play, or if they want to meet up for a winery, etc.

I have worked hard on my health and fitness this year. I have tried to work on my relationship with God as well. So, now I am going to take a HUGE step back and look at my relationships with people. In doing that, I can make more time to earn money and more time to see who is there for me.

Sound crazy? Read Maximize the Moment by T.D. Jakes. He lays it on the line about people. Just because someone is Christian doesn’t mean they have to be a doormat for people. I would read the book, but I lent it to someone and never got it back.:) See, what I mean about my crappy friends?

Anyway, I am still thankful and blessed and focusing on positive things. Sometimes narrowing one’s scope in life can really bring a lot of revelation. So, hopefully my path will be revealed during my hiatus from Facebook and from people in general, except of course my close family and cat:)

Have a blessed Saturday and a restful Sunday!

Simply~

Dee

So, Thanksgiving is coming up and I am thankful…

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I don’t have oodles of cash. I don’t have a big, fine house. I don’t have a “big job”, but I am thankful and happy every single day. I have a friend/trend who buys her way into people’s hearts. She has not one friend that she hasn’t spent lots of money on at one time or another. She is a nice woman, but she would not be the person that she is without her nice income.

So many people define themselves and their lives by their status, the number of stamps on their passports, or how often they get pampered at the spa. I wonder how they make it if they made 30 grand a year. Or if they rent instead of own. Or, if they did not have a boatload of people to hang out with at a moment’s notice.

I have spent much of my life being mediocre. (It kinda sucks because I am actually quite bright and creative and fabulous) Making mediocre money, going mediocre places, and living a life that could have been so much bigger. But then came my kid. I have done the whole mom/child-rearing thing in a big way. I am a super, fabulous mom and  a lot of people envy-no joke. I wouldn’t trade all of the memories on vacations with flashy friends for the awesome journey I have had and continue to have with my kid.

I look at my child everyday, and realize what a gift I have been given by God. I yell, I get annoyed, I may not cook all of the food groups on a regular basis, but I am present. I have traditions with my kid. I make occasions more than special. I treat every birthday as a royal occasion, planning for 4 or 5 months sometimes like her recent party.

But, one doesn’t have to have a child to see and feel God’s love and blessings. Having a great and rewarding career is something to be thankful for. I have never had that. Having a great relationship with your family, or friends that would go to the ends of the earth for you is something that most  of us don’t have. Being really athletic and fit and inspirational to others is a blessing to count for sure!

My whole point in all of this, is that people die everyday. There are monsters creating terror all over the world everyday. So everyday we are alive and haven’t lost anyone is a day to praise God and celebrate. I have decided to not ever put myself into a relationship, or a job or in a situation any more where I am not valued or I do not feel happy. I want to look back when I am old and realize that I did not waste my time on unimportant issues or people.

During this beautiful and hectic and magical holiday season. Don’t fret. Don’t feel sad. Know that there are many people out there that would love to have the life that you do. IF you ever feel that you are short on blessings, know that your ability to read this blog and other blogs and have access to technology and have the ability to  write is a right or a privilege that many people across the world do not have access to.

What are you thankful for this year?

Simply~

Dee

So, a lot has happened since I’ve been gone. Most of it sucky…

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Wow. So terrorism is always running rampant somewhere. It is like a B-action movie that never ends. But this Paris stuff was just a ticking time bomb and I do not mean that as a joke. For years, extremists have taken over parts of Paris and forced their rule of law which includes Sharia law and have pretty much said, you don’t follow our way of life then stay out of our hood.

I call it BS Why are governments so liberal and politically correct? Do they not see that it doesn’t work? I am not a gun nut. At all. As a matter of fact, I shot a rifle for the first time ever a week ago. And, I got all of the bullets in the same spot.:) I digress, but all of these gun free zones is where terrorist acts are occurring.

Like the one predicted or scheduled to happen here in D.C. All of the areas that they could/would/will strike have no carry laws. But if they come to VA with their nonsense, they would be in a world of hurt because Virginians are packing, and packing heavy. It is like I am referring to the wild, wild west. Or, I feel like we are living in those times, but much worse. These folks are enemies that are hard to peg down and there are no rules of engagement.

I am not an Islamophobe I don’t think. But it does get harder and harder to be around people of that persuasion, when all of this violence and hate goes on and it is rare that other Muslims stand up and say it is wrong. I get so annoyed with anti-religious folks bashing Christians. Especially when they bring up the Crusades deal like Obama did. Not forgetting that the Crusades happened when times were not civilized.

For some reason when it comes to this religion, people are afraid to call a spade a spade. Well, I don’t hate any race or religion. I try to be kind to all, to live my life in a decent and respectful manner and I never have a goal to hurt anyone. How can people be attracted to this extreme way of living where death and destruction is the goal? Are these the end times?

Well, I know one thing for sure. I know these “refugees” are not coming north and west because of global warming like the genius CIA director said. This brainwashing done by Obama has even the CIA sounding ridiculous. If you guys are mad that I am not supporting the president, tough crap. I try not to be political on here. I really do. But if you are still blaming other presidents or still in denial, I don’t know how to help you at this point.

I wasn’t around during Nazi Germany, obviously, but this climate we are in with the president and his flowery language and the media licking his boots, it is eerie and sounds too familiar.

So, life is a gift. Why don’t most of us treat it as such?

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So there is always tomorrow right? For many people that is not the case. There are no days left. There time to depart from earth has come, but I am sure that if they could communicate with those of us who are lucky enough to be alive, they would tell us to wake the hell up! (Pardon my French)

I am so guilty of saying that I am going to have a successful business doing this and that and I never fully reach the potential that I am so capable of. Call it lack of drive, lack of confidence or lack of ability, that would be fair to say. But in all honesty, like so many people I am a dreamer, planning out this better life for myself but waiting for the right time. Or, waiting until I am ready. Or whatever other excuse.

Though I am a doer when it comes to many things, I tend to not fully achieve my goals. I either eat perfectly clean and half-way workout, or workout 35 times in 4 weeks (I am doing that now), but screw up and eat movie popcorn and a candy bar (did that today). I don’t know if it that I am afraid to win or if I just feel like there is always time for whatever my goals are. Aren’t so many of us guilty of this? If you are an over achiever and all of your plans have come to fruition, stop reading this. No, really. Stop. Now.

I am thankful everyday to God that I have my daughter and my mom, and my cute place to live and I have an income. But I really don’t utilize all of the gifts that I have. I am such a good party planner. I am so good at coming up with business names and ideas and concepts for people. I am a decent writer. I am a great resume writer. I am good at managing projects.

But…I am doing those things to the level that I could. I am not starting that party planning business, but I am helping people with their parties and just spent close to 100 hours planning my daughter’s party that is up coming. I don’t write everyday as I said I would. And though I am an office manager, it is not fulfilling for me because I am helping someone else with their dream and their livelihood and not doing something that I am passionate about.

I don’t know how to turn those things around. I don’t know how to motivate myself because there is so much I want to accomplish. I guess I need to stick to the advice that I give to others and do one thing at a time. That has always been a problem for me. I have trouble focusing on one goal or one dream or one project. Am I the only one?

So, this was supposed to be about how life is a gift and that we do not need to take it for granted. See, the whole inability to focus thing going on again:). But I hope that someone can relate to this post. I also hope that this will inspire me (and others) to work on at least something that can be done immediately. So, I will get back to the clean eating while working my butt off to get fit with my round 2 of 21 Day Fix! I will also write more. No, REALLY. I will.

Thanks for bearing with me as I share my innermost thoughts and feelings. Even if I ramble and don’t write daily, and if what I say sometimes makes no sense, I hope that something that I have to say will resonate with someone. Remember that life is too short to not live every day to the fullest.

I am ever so grateful for my life and so blessed to have made it to tell about another day.Good night!

Simply~

Dee

“Be grateful for the gift of life on earth. Not all who saw yesterday were lucky enough to see today.”
― Edmond Mbiaka