So, we all want to say that we have unconditional love. Love between us and our spouses and with our children. But it isn’t anywhere near the love Jesus Christ has for us. I am no Biblical expert and totally not even close to being perfect, but I do know that a human cannot truly embody unconditional love.
UCL comes with no judgement, endless patience and unending empathy. Aggravation or ego are not ingredients in the UCL recipe. So knowing all of that, I don’t think any of us could come close to this, maybe Mother Teresa was not far from it. But honestly I can’t think of any other earthly examples.
Taking care of my mom has helped me to see how flawed I am and far awayn I am from perfect love. I get super frustrated and exasperated, but a lot of times sadness and fear is the larger part of it. I am still youngish, not a senior citizen, taking care of my parent as it happens for so many older people. I am a mom of a teen and I am now thinking of my own mortality and hoping that my mom can make it for years but wondering constantly how much time there is and praying she makes it through the month. I chose to take her from a bad situation and care for her but sometimes it feels like too much or I can’t handle it. Someone with unconditional love or even close to it would not behave this way.
I am trying to be happy and positive and proactive so that I can provide love in all my care. But it just doesn’t stick. I work hard to be tender and loving and kind but I fall short. This leads me to believe that I have to lean on Christ and stop trying to do it alone. But between you and me, it is my lack of faith that is keeping me from handling things in the way I should. I try to read scripture and believe, but feel hopeless and helpless. I want to feel in my bones that God is the ultimate healer and can work miracles even for a major sinner like me. But it doesn’t come naturally. I am a Christian, but I feel like I’m not good at it. Sound crazy? Maybe so, but I am being my usual honest self.
The reach for unconditional love to self should be a goal as well. But in the heat of a crisis or painful time, what do you do to get through? Do you turn to God? Is meditation or pampering your elixir or do you exercise the pain away? For me I spend a significant amount of time telling D or my kid about it because they are the only ones I really want to talk to. But right now I am trying to transfer some of that to my Heavenly Father because I and my loved ones can only handle so much of this. For those of you who have been in a difficult situation, please tell me what you did to ease your sorrow or help moderate your emotions. Below are a few quotes/scripture that I am going to write down 5 times a day and meditate/pray on:
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. Proverbs 3:5
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phillipians 4:13
I can’t control the waves of the ocean, but I can learn how to navigate my ship. Debasish Mridha
Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don’t pray when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.
I hope for those of you going through trying times, these may help you or finding ones that work for you will do the the trick. For those who have been toughing it out for a long time, many blessings to you. What I have written in this post may not provide ways to come close to achieving the unattainable UCL, but it can hopefully help you to work through the rough patches. This link provides 7 ways to cope during difficult times, they are simple, yet effective- https://www.huffpost.com/entry/coping-strategies_b_2813782
And remember that perfection is something to work towards, but is not possible. So do the best that you can when caring for and loving others but don’t forget you.