So, I am all for happiness and positivity like the next guy, or girl. I try to compliment people in some way every time that I get together with them. Or if I see a stranger with a fab scarf in the market, I will totally tell her. I am a kind person who wants to be happy and get along with people. I really do. But I am realistic and human and not always smiling and ecstatic. Probably 95 percent of the time I am, but the rest of the time I am real. Human. Normal. I love when people are nice and things go great and there are few road bumps in my way, it’s fab, but it never lasts. That’s life!
- Okay, enter the fake person. The one who constantly put some quotes on her wall on differing social media platforms about light and love and more light. Maybe I am cynical. Perhaps I have had a few too many let downs in life. Whatever the deal is, I can say one thing, I am not phony. Some of the same people who are talking about the perfect life and to always be happy and who are offended when someone is straight up or doesn’t sugar coat, are some of the most screwed up people out there. They, in my humble opinion do this more for show than what they are truly living.
One person that comes to mind pretends to be so moral and so lovely, yet has no problem seeing a married guy or guzzling bottles of wine for sport. Now I am probably coming off as all judgmental and I don’t want to be like that. I have made tons of mistakes that people could judge me on, so I try not to do the same to others. But this person portrays herself as this together, grounded and spiritual person and maybe to a degree that is true. But what annoys me so much about her and other people like her, is that if someone doesn’t fully subscribe to this positive and transcendental life stuff she “practices”, then she turns her nose up or gets offended.
As my mom has always said, if you are rich or a Christian or whatever, you don’t have to constantly tell others. If someone is forever touting something, then it becomes kind of suspect if this is who they truly are. What are they trying to hide, or prove or accomplish? Maybe they are hoping to motivate themselves and others. I agree that we need good words in our increasingly negative world. But I feel like there are so many people profiting off of this. It has become rather rote and commonplace and feels inauthentic. I equate it to the movie Romey and Michele’s High School Reunion, where they pretend to be more successful than they are. Except the were at least funny and cool.:)
I understand the desire to think positively, it can really work. The whole- ‘I think therefore I am’, mentality. It’s great to speak and walk in hopefulness. I really do hope that people continue with their kind and lovely quotes and speak positively in order to live the life they desire if that is what works for them. I wish for them that their Oprah-esque attempts to inspire others and get Instafamous or to just be truly happy in their daily lives, comes to pass for them. But I also hope that on their path to whatever they are searching for, whether they find it or not, to be real about it and themselves. And I will continue to work on myself and try with all of my might to refrain from rolling my eyes during my journey while people continuously pontificate about how great theirs is. 😉