So, why would you hire someone with expertise and not use it? Pride or stupidity?

So, I work for this person and she drives me effing crazy. She constantly adds to the laundry list of things that she has for me to do. And she asks in a round about way how to improve things and when I tell her in different and diplomatic ways, she never takes my advice nor does she make changes. She hired me because I am organized, good at marketing and great with any household things she needs done.  I do so many things in order to keep her household and side business going and to make her life easier in general. It is rare that I get the feeling that I am appreciated too, which adds insult to injury!

I am sure that many of you feel that way about the jobs or positions that you hold. But because this job is below my intelligence level in most aspects, it is harder to deal with. I am pretty sure that I have more degrees than this woman and though I could not do the job that she does well, But some of the things that I do for her business, she cannot do well. I am the one that is good with editing and social media marketing and keeping things on track. But I need to feel like my employer thinks so. She just has this condescending air and I could normally overlook that, but with her I just can’t.

When hangs around sometimes and “works from home”, I  just get in a funk. She micromanages the stupidest things and wants perfection in those areas, but she is such a mess. She has no clue what the word orderly means, yet she demands behavior that would suggest that is who she is. I am super nice to her, but I really do not like her as a person. Every day that goes by makes me realize that I need to be doing my own thing and work on building my own future or brand or whatever it is I am trying to do. I think that this kind of frustration is what it will take in order for me to really achieve my goals.

I am not writing this post to be so cliché and go on and on about how precious life is and how life on earth is so limited. I mean it is. I am thankful. I am blessed. I am grateful to have an income of any kind because many people are out of work and would be glad to have this easy but annoying gig. But after articulating into typed words, I do feel that I am the kind of person that needs to do my own thing. Because I sat out of real work for over a decade because I was a mom, it is hard for me to find career oriented jobs but I know that I am capable of doing more and definitely deserve more pay.

I am a part of an empowering women’s business group on Facebook and I have learned so much from these women. Most of them own their own salons or stores and some are makers. Some of are established and some of them are beginners like I am. What I love is that they all support one another and offer their expertise. And guess what? People listen to and value their experience and knowledge. As of today, I am now one of the admins and will help market and build the group. The person who heads this group, I met on Instagram a few years ago and she believes in my abilities she values my input.

So why would someone pay me to do a job and not even come close to considering that I have an inkling as to what I am doing? I can only come to 2 conclusions. She is either incredibly dense or she is too proud to think that her subordinate is more knowledgable in many ways than she is. I am pretty sure that it is the latter. Which lets me know that this is my time. There is no time like the present, and all that jazz. I am working on my other WP account for myself and my family, I am starting to work on a book with ML that I dreamt up after 9/11. And I am stepping out on faith to venture into a new business.

So yeah my “boss” is annoying and ridiculously stubborn and a pain in the gluteus max. But, I am going to take advantage of this moment in time and let my aggravation be the fuel that I need to get started. If you are in a similar situation, I suggest you do the same. Work is a place that many of us spend so much of our time, so why be miserable? If you aren’t making ends meet either, then what is stopping you? Of course don’t quit your job until you are set up. But put as much time into you as you do your job and success will not be difficult to achieve.

Note to self…




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I have tons of education and don't use it! I am non-traditional and traditional rolled into one person. I am a Christian, but need work! I am conservative fiscally, but I could care less who someone marries. My favorite things to do are: hang out with my kid, watch movies, read, write, sing, dance, love, live life to the fullest! I love: my kid, my cat, my best guy D, God, rain, chocolate, Christmas, friends, cats, animals in general, honesty, avocados, love, Hallmark channel, iced coffee, Harry Potter, NYC, England, Italy, D.C., Paris and autumn.

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