So, I really get sick of people acting like they are so busy that they can’t answer a text or a call. I don’t mean immediate responses. I mean healthy and normal communication in a timely manner.

This post is not just on my behalf, but for all people who feel or have felt dissed or unappreciated by someone. I read posts about this all the time. Many people posting are bad friends who use the excuse of ADHD or any other reason as to why they aren’t solid people.

Folks who care are not needy. They are just reliable. They think about other people, and if they consider you a friend or framily member, then they will keep in touch. What is the point of having loved ones if no time is made for them?

I get the whole ‘friends for a reason, a season, a lifetime’ bit. Sometimes, that is the answer. But if someone is considered a loved one, it is normal to want to know what is going on with them from time to time and want to share stories. If people don’t talk ever, is there a friendship there? Should it be ruled out as a season if there seems to be no reason as to why they don’t speak to you?

The lack of depth, genuineness, and interest is because of digital, in my humble opinion. People act as if they are celebs, posting every moment, but communicating less in real life. It isn’t just with Gen Z. I am Gen X, and was spending 1 to 2 hours a day or more on Instagram at one point, debating politics or watching pet reels  Or looking at exercise routines I could not make time for because I was too busy on social.

Social? Lol. What a funny name. This “social media” was designed to control and divide. Not to mention device dependency,  not investment in their community. Folks are at restaurants sitting together on their phones. Or setting the stage to “influence” some unsuspecting boob into thinking that their life is lame compared to this”Tik Tok Celeb”.

Essentially, we carry brainwashing tools in our hands that we pay exorbitant rates for that isolate and alienate us. We are enslaved due to our own making, without many of us knowing.

Sorry for the soapbox. I start writing and do not know where it will go.

Society has changed, and people’s focus has shifted, for sure. Many factors can be blamed for people not being connected. But everyone should take accountability.  My new phrase is: Give people what they give to you. Of course, it is situation based. If your friend just had twins or travels 2 weeks a month or is a life-saving brain surgeon, sure, they deserve grace.

But if you reach out to them repeatedly and like you are working and living a normal life and don’t make the effort, ever, then they simply are not interested. Either they don’t consider you someone important to them or they don’t value friendship and are okay not having close connections. Or feel they have enough people in their life. Let them figure it out alone.

Life is fleeting. Be around people who deserve access to you, and if there is no one deserving, just spend time with yourself. The right folks will come along.

~simply

Dee