What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?

So, let me be honest, the first that came to mind is not clever or cool. But I am gonna go with my initial thought-not caring so much.

Sometimes, I wish that I were a vapid, ignorantly blissful, phony person who only focused on myself. It seems in this world that people are attracted to that. Those who aren’t fully vulnerable or whomever lack depth seem to be all the rage.

And if I were that type of person, I would not cry when seeing videos about mistreated animals or feed all of the neighborhood feral cats and go out of my way to give to others. I wouldn’t be so emotionally invested in people, therefore less disappointed when they showed their infallible selves.

World events, injustices, and rude comments to others on social media for no good reason would not set me off. I could walk around with a sense of carelessness, easy happiness, and selfishness.

Sounds silly? I get extremely weighed down in my thoughts and am just generally bothered by ignorance and self-absorption that has plagued our society. And not just Gen Z and beyond as so many like to blame them. I am a Gen Xer, and my people have replaced friendship and real conversation for likes on social media in many instances. And with that, a regard for other people has slipped by the way side to a degree.

One way I have decided to do something about my overly empathic/empathetic tendencies is to take a social media break. I deleted Insta yesterday, which is something I spent about an hour and a half on every day. I would get mad, annoyed, and overwhelmed when on there and did not know it. I am starting with 10 days. I want to do more, but my college performer is in a play soon, so I can’t miss those posts.

I know this post wasn’t supposed to be what we would change about ourselves. But if I am not skilled in the area of not giving a crap, one way I can try to obtain an ounce of that persona or to adopt that skill is to change the way that I approach things. If elimination is what it takes to master a more self-focused life (for a while), then that is what I will do.

Giving and caring too much and loving endlessly bears a weight similar to being a complete airhead without a care in the world-they are both dangerous to the psyche!

~simply

Dee

P.S. if I sound like a self-righteous saint in this post, I am far from it. That isn’t what I am trying to say at all.

Dee